
My Home, Husbands and Wives Magazine, UK, 1934
I have read a lot of helpful and thought-provoking blogposts aimed at giving good advice to wives. Here's a selection of my favourites, all of which contain real, practical suggestions. I hope you enjoy reading them as much as I did:
First of all, what not to do: 10 Bad Habits that could ruin your marriage. According to a 2003 Newsweek study, between 15% and 20% of couples are living in a sexless marriage, where couples make love no more than 10 times a year. While sex is not the be-all, end-all to a marriage, it’s one of the best ways to maintain intimacy. And when sex becomes a distant memory, your intimacy takes a severe hit.
And now what you really do need to do: Six Fundamentals of Love & Respect Kelly wondered if her husband, Steve, would remember their 10th anniversary. Some years he had forgotten. But, this year, he remembered. He had found just the right card, and he was sure it would be a great anniversary. When he handed her the card, she beamed from ear to ear. But when she read it, her countenance turned sour and dark. "It’s not bad… for a birthday card," she scowled. (Great advice here for husbands too)
The next two articles look at different ways we can take our husbands for granted:
What your husband wishes he could tell you - Have you ever found yourself sitting with your beloved in front of the tv? You're clipping your toenails before flossing your teeth. You're wearing that hideous floppy grey flannel robe and your legs hairier than a lumberjack's. And then you find yourself wondering why the romance is gone.
Please don't check your manners at the door - I see otherwise personable young men and women treat their spouses in demanding, selfish, ungrateful, bossy, loud, and otherwise downright unpleasant ways. They are cordial to everyone else, but with their spouse they forget the most basic of manners -- even down to not saying "please" and "thank-you". Under the guise of trying to "help their spouse", they constantly pick at their spouse's faults. At home, they blurt out things in a manner they would never dream of using with anyone else.
An overview of the issue of submission in marriage from a Biblical point of view. Viewed in the light of God’s Word, subjection is not a forced slavery to which a wife must make herself conform. It is not a loss of individuality or personality. True biblical subjection is a woman’s creative and challenging pleasure of discovering how she can show her husband that she respects him, admires him, and depends on him. That requires the death of all pride and the destruction of all selfish motives.
What if you want to make some profound changes to your home or family and your husband is not on board? (Written very much from a Biblical perspective.) When I started on this "journey" of wanting to be a godly wife and mother, I didn't even think my husband was saved. He definitely was no leader (I had destroyed that in the first place). He definitely wasn't godly. Our home definitely wasn't godly. But over time, as I put God first, and then my husband next, and prayed to be a crown to my husband, my husband pulled along side me--and then ahead of me as our family's spiritual leader and my spiritual head.
On a lighter, but perhaps no less vital, note, the importance of having fun in marriage. Having fun together is an important way to create positive feelings toward each other and toward life in general. We’ve set aside Wednesday nights and Saturdays for our regular dates. This breaks up our weekly routine, relieves stress, renews hope, and keeps the friendship side of our marriage thriving.






